When do we fall in love, finally?
Do we fall in love before we decide..? or decision is just the helpless conclusion!
Is love an idea,or an ideal or both, which simply can't be true in this selfish world.
what do we seek? is it companionship, friendship, fun times, or just protection from the outer unknown world. everyone wants to take advantage of the other for their own gain. the element of trust that was the bedrock of all relationship has long vanished from the face of the earth as we know it!
we are all a little weak,a little scared, a little more than conscious of our small fears. we crave for acceptance but our failures and lack of perfection always comes in our ways. our relationships have become a transaction in a sense. we feel that we are being judged by people by their standard of perfection. people in fact are not fair in their assessment, but, in essence they are being critical to hide their failures and lack of agency. their harsh criticism reflects their bad attitude towards life which is totally negative. A positive criticism is empathy personified. they have deep sense of care and belonging and endeavour to help the receiver.
so, what is love? a likability, friendliness, kindness, respect, trust,.. it is all of these things, but it also includes acceptance despite knowing the imperfections and shortcomings. its a trust that shares the woes and multiplies the happiness when shared without inhibitions.
so how do we love? is it a consequence or an action in the first place? Love is a process, it grows over a period of time! Initially it understands the giver and the receiver, then the mutual equation established prepares one for give and take of love. If anyone is simply happy to give love without asking for anything in return, then it is he highest form of love. in today's context, if one gives you their time and attention then they are being totally unselfish and free providers of love and care. such people are very rare and very hard to find, if you happen to meet one such person then don't loose them at any cost. a soothing word, a loving handshake or hug, even a warm smile brings love and happiness from the deepest and darkest corners of our heart.we all should remember this!
we should all be positive towards our being and helpful towards our fellow beings. our love should make our life meaningful and purposeful. If these conditions are fulfilled then our highest goals of life are already met!
Do we fall in love before we decide..? or decision is just the helpless conclusion!
Is love an idea,or an ideal or both, which simply can't be true in this selfish world.
what do we seek? is it companionship, friendship, fun times, or just protection from the outer unknown world. everyone wants to take advantage of the other for their own gain. the element of trust that was the bedrock of all relationship has long vanished from the face of the earth as we know it!
we are all a little weak,a little scared, a little more than conscious of our small fears. we crave for acceptance but our failures and lack of perfection always comes in our ways. our relationships have become a transaction in a sense. we feel that we are being judged by people by their standard of perfection. people in fact are not fair in their assessment, but, in essence they are being critical to hide their failures and lack of agency. their harsh criticism reflects their bad attitude towards life which is totally negative. A positive criticism is empathy personified. they have deep sense of care and belonging and endeavour to help the receiver.
so, what is love? a likability, friendliness, kindness, respect, trust,.. it is all of these things, but it also includes acceptance despite knowing the imperfections and shortcomings. its a trust that shares the woes and multiplies the happiness when shared without inhibitions.
so how do we love? is it a consequence or an action in the first place? Love is a process, it grows over a period of time! Initially it understands the giver and the receiver, then the mutual equation established prepares one for give and take of love. If anyone is simply happy to give love without asking for anything in return, then it is he highest form of love. in today's context, if one gives you their time and attention then they are being totally unselfish and free providers of love and care. such people are very rare and very hard to find, if you happen to meet one such person then don't loose them at any cost. a soothing word, a loving handshake or hug, even a warm smile brings love and happiness from the deepest and darkest corners of our heart.we all should remember this!
we should all be positive towards our being and helpful towards our fellow beings. our love should make our life meaningful and purposeful. If these conditions are fulfilled then our highest goals of life are already met!
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